Debt. Gross. This is not a fun topic, but it is one that many of us face being in our twenties and beyond.
Some of us may have discovered a credit card in college or shortly thereafter. The high of having your own credit card(s) seemed euphoric at first, and you promised yourself you’d pay it off as soon as you landed that great job, but whoa- 3 years later that balance just keeps on growing…
Some used a credit card to help float them through a period of unemployment, or move to a new city. Others figured they’d only use their credit card to furnish their lowly first apartment because: “It is zero percent for 6 months!” (“Um oops, its been 6 months already?!”) Before you know it, your car was vandalized again, you had unexpected medical bills to pay, parking tickets etc and the emergency credit card was there for you.
Like a drug, over time you needed just a little more to get that same euphoria. So naturally, this turned into keeping up with friends in the city: buying stylish clothes, going to dinners at trendy new restaurants with friends, weekly mani’s/pedi’s, bar tabs, tanning, going out 3 times a week, daily lattes, cabs, going out to lunch almost daily, and never denying yourself something you wanted at that moment because “you deserve it!”
Ok, so you work hard, and one day you will get the pay you “deserve,” but what’s really going on behind these spending binges?
As someone who has fallen into this trap, here’s what I think other young women like me struggle with…
- We are too impulsive.
- We mistake having a bad week at work, a bad boss/boyfriend/friend/relative, or feeling blue as code for: “You deserve it, who cares how much it costs!”
- You can justify a need for just about anything to yourself, even though none of it is rooted in truth.
- Boredom. (i.e. “I’m really sick of that suit/staying in/my hair color/that old TV so I will buy a new one.”)
- You want it all NOW.
- You want to show an outward appearance of success, independence and happiness, even if your salary is modest.
- Having nice things “motivates you” to do well and work hard. (Danger Zone!)
- Fear and avoidance of facing the amount of debt you have, therefore not making a plan to get rid of it.
- You’re living a very unrealistic lifestyle: It might be time to admit that you are not a celebrity.
- You feel like you need to have the life your parents have, even though you are half their age.
Does this resonate with anyone?! More on this later, but obviously there is something bigger going on here behind a high credit card balance!